Find out the secret to dramatically improve your relationships quickly and easily.
At Focus with Faigy we offer the DISC Assessment and Report to all our clients as part of their welcome package. This is a tool that gives you the answers to human dynamics. It dramatically increases your understanding of yourself and greatly improves your compatibility with other people.
Our characteristics, or styles and patterns of observable behaviour are the driving force behind our building relationships, and with whom we build relationships successfully
Most of our behaviour patterns are established early in life through influence by our environment. Throughout one’s life a variety of behaviour patterns are repeated, and become habits. One’s habits make one’s behaviour fairly predictable, however everyone has different habits. That is what keeps relationships interesting and challenging.
You will understand your dominant characteristics and how they influence your life. You will understand how to improve what you are doing well, and how to adapt your style to reach more life success.
You will understand the DISC golden rule “Do unto others what they would like you to do to them.” You will understand how to communicate and behave to others using their preferred style. In this way you will build rapport and open communication and co-operation with those you know. This tool will dramatically increase your relationship quality and productivity.
Through taking the DISC Assessment and Report you will understand how different people address their problems and challenges. You will gain insight into how they handle situations involving people, how they demonstrate pace and consistency, and how they react to rules and procedures.
The following is a very abridged version of the 4 main DISC styles.
Ds are task oriented, decisive and quick to action. They work quickly and impressively. They are task focused.
Is love to be spontaneous in their actions and decisions. Being with people gives them energy. They work well with others, and have good persuasive skills.
Ss take their time in making decisions and actions. They like close personal relationships and work well in a team, balancing out the other members. They are good listeners and need stability and security. They are people oriented.
Cs are cautious when deciding and acting. They prefer objects or tasks to people. They want to be right and can be overly reliant on data. They are good at problem solving using data. They prefer tasks over people.
CLIENT CASE STUDY
Let’s look at the following client story.
Esther was constantly frustrated with her husband Moishe.
Why was he such a stickler for rules? In her opinion rules were created to bend and overcome one way or another. Why did he never see that? Social events were a nightmare. He would be very quiet and hardly participate in conversations. After a while she would find him in a quiet corner immersed in a book. When they hosted guests it was really difficult for him to hold conversations. This embarrassed her to no end.
When a decision had to be made he discussed the details in agonising intensity. It often took him a long time to decide on major decisions. She felt stifled. Why couldn’t he just gather the information and decide NOW! He spent too much time in his office working at his accounting job. She felt that numbers were more important to him than people.
As the years passed by these differences and more led her to believe that they were simply incompatible. She couldn’t tolerate his behaviours any longer. She felt trapped. She was stuck in a failed marriage for life. Moishe was likewise increasingly frustrated. He felt misunderstood and not appreciated. He was fed up with her behaviours that maddened him to no end.
Esther started coaching to learn tools to help her ADHD son. Through their joint DISC Assessment and Report she learnt to see the strengths of her husband’s behaviour and how it actually balanced hers out. She had many light bulb moments. She found the answers to her questions. By focusing on their joint strengths their marriage dramatically improved.
She learnt that she was a “D” style. Ds are decisive and take action. They work quickly and hate details. Moishe was a “C” style. He naturally worked well alone, was cautious when making decisions. He preferred task-oriented, intellectual work. His accounting job was perfect for him. They found tools to balance out their strengths and challenges related to their behaviour styles.
Moishe loved to come home from synagogue in the morning and tell Esther the latest news. He would enjoy delving into the details. At that time Esther was busy getting the kids ready for school. He never understood why she always exploded at him. He now understood that being a “D” Esther did not like details. He now understood what she always told him “Stop telling me details, just get on with it!” When Esther was stressed he must avoid any detail oriented conversations at that point.
Esther understood that Moishe’s seemingly dumb silences at social gatherings was not so dumb after all. He was still interested. He was merely gathering information and deciding if it was necessary to join the discussion. His comments when he did join conversations were always on the mark.
As a result of their strengthened relationship and the tools they learned, the atmosphere at home greatly improved. As a result their son’s behaviour naturally improved.