MY ADHD STRUGGLES AND SUCCESSES

What fear has taught me

About Myself

What I have learned FROM LIFE

People who know me, need a  lot of convincing that I have ADHD. I have a reputation in my community of being super organised…

Imagine someone has just fallen off a cliff, and is hanging on with every ounce of their strength. That’s me.

One second that I leave go, and I fall down down down to the abyss far below.

Soon after my oldest child was born, I realised that getting organised and learning to manage my time was the root of my success as an ADHD mum.

When my friends were searching for inspiration, I looked for ADHD experts to teach me how to create and stick to  routines, and how to managing my time.

These ideas don’t sound very spiritual. Yet they are the vessel that contains all spiritual growth. If the vessel is broken or slightly cracked, you will quickly lose everything that you have gained.

MY THREE REGRETS IN LIFE...

Welcome my new friend.

I can honestly say that I have  two regrets in my life.

Here is the first one.

It is high time that women started to listen to their inner soul voice, their intuition. You know the truth. I have few regrets in life. My ONLY regrets are the times when I ignored my inner voice. Every time I did this, I ALWAYS messed up.

Women ask me how I can be so sure of my decisions in life, both large and small.  I have seen so many times that when I stop and listen to my inner soul voice, and I bravely follow through with my decisions, even when I am faced with great opposition, I am ALWAYS right. 

My second regret is not realising soon enough that I was the victim of emotional abuse. When I did realise it, I got so confused. I didn’t realise just how pervasive and totally soul destroying emotional abuse can be.

An overwhelming number of people with ADHD have a second comorbid condition. If you dig a bit deeper, this means that family members of those with ADHD will often have (undiagnosed) and unmanaged ADHD. They too will have comorbid conditions.

This means that its fun and games or flames and fireworks in an extended ADHD family… Typical ADHD deficits are extreme lack of insight,  and lack of emotional self-regulation, (anger issues) difficulties with impulse control, (controlling what is said) and the typical black and white thinking all combine to create an environment conducive to emotional abuse. 

My advice to you, dear friend:

STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THOSE WHO ARE DESTROYING YOU

If you recognise your situation in my description, RUN AWAY FROM YOUR EMOTIONALLY DRAINING FAMILY MEMBERS.RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN.

My third regret is, putting up with clutter for too long…Clutter comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. A lot of clutter is intangible, yet the damaging effects are real. Here are a few examples:

Digital clutter, monetary clutter, time clutter, and more.